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September 6, 2008
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I am struggling with a few things at the moment.

Struggling to know what to do about my money pit of a house.

Struggling to know how to undo the ‘going away-ness’ from my children regarding bedtime.

Struggling to think about how I’m going to afford all the work that needs to be done when I know I am commission less for the next 6 months or so.

Struggling to know what to call this post….

The main thing that’s getting me down is my shitty electrics in this fucking house.

When we saw this house it seemed like such a bargain. House prices had doubled in a year and BN spotted this little house that was spending it’s existence separated into two flats and down trodden by a  succession of drug dealer types. The guy that owned it was desperate to sell following a divorce settlement that required him to make an immediate payment of 50k.

We could only afford 50k at the time and all the other decent houses in the area were going for more like 65-70.

It seemed like a match made in heaven.

It had an extraordinary amount of work needed and to be honest we really didn’t take enough photographs. But then I wasn’t an avid documenter back then. We ripped carpets out, ripped boilers out, had a gas leak (not related 🙂  ), ripped out two kitchens, two bathrooms, had one fitted of each, built cupboards, sanded floors, built fireplaces, ripped fireplaces out (not in that order), ripped out radiators, cleaned windows…. sat in the freezing cold November air, in a house with fuck all insulation, huddling round an electric radiator trying to gain the feeling in our hands.

It’s fair to say that BN has done the majority of the work on this place. Blood, sweat and tears is such a cliche, but it doesn’t even cover it to be fair. We have spent so much money and so much effort and so much time worrying and working away on this place and that’s what makes it such an evil fucking swing at you when it feels like it’s crumbling round your head.

Electrics is the problem at the moment.

You may recall that a few weeks ago I was sat at home alone in the pouring rainy weather, and they decided to go out.

Actually – I would also like to add at this point that the person I thought was at a surprise party, wasn’t! I was totally paranoid and being my usual insecure self at that point – but that’s another story for another day…

Anyway – it’s raining – in case you haven’t noticed. We have torrential downpours, dry spells, followed by absolute flooding. This apparently seems to be an important factor in the workings of my charged particle systems!

The rain comes down….. the power goes out. We have two circuits that are tripping. Plug socket circuit for the dining room, the kitchen and the girls room and the one for the shower. So – bearing in mind that our hot water tank element blew out months ago and we haven’t been able to get that replaced yet (money) and we can’t keep the shower working… we may have no hot water at all…

Add this together with the fact that the power is off in the kitchen…. we are quite unhappy 😦

I may cry.

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3 Comments leave one →
  1. September 7, 2008 3:42 am

    1. Have a hug, obviously a virtual one is pretty poor so grab bn :o)

    2. Write a list of all the things you have done to the house, tick them off and be proud of all the hard work so far.

    3. Adnire all your wedding photos, they are gorgeous, you have such a fantastic time and now you are coming down with a bump, we all do after a party and yours was a biggy!

    4. Don’t know what to say about going away’ness are the girls thinking you wont be there in the morning? if so, make a firm promise you will see them, or if not possible because you will be out first a promise to leave a note by their beds saying good morning I will be back by teatime (or whatever) kids love to know what we are up to, no peace or privacy :o) if not ignore 4 totally ;o) routines all come back in the end if you need them.

    5. Get an electrician out, casually mention the electrics have tripped and get a free quote. Know what you are dealing with and worry less.

    6. If you already know how much it will cost and don’t have a pet electrician who will do it and let you pay installments, this sounds awful but we set aside the only thing we used to do, a take away once a week, all we did when the kids were small and we were broke, we stopped having our weekly take away and I cobbled somthing similar in the kitchen and put the £ in a jar in the kitchen. Till we could afford it again. Obviously my kitchen was in working order, but you get my drift..

    Obviously life gets in the way of doing what we want, I’m probably no help at all but a problem shared and all that, have a cry, does no harm.

    big kiss

    XC

  2. September 7, 2008 8:00 am

    *Hugs*
    Listen to mum up there – she knows best.

  3. September 7, 2008 4:10 pm

    You really should get a quote from an electrician so you know what is happening. You need to know nothing is suddenly going to catch fire. And if something is going to catch fire, get 3 quotes and i’ll lend you some money. If nothing is going ot catch fire, you are going to have to send bn out on the streets till you save enough to fix it.

    Not sure what to say about the “going-awayness” – i assume they are worried you’ll be going on holiday again? I think you’ll just have to give it time but… don’t set up anything as a fix that you’ll then have to undo (sitting by people at bedtime or whatever” – just be patient, consistant and firm – all those things i know you know 😉 And if all else fails, explain the menaing of “too broke to ever leave the house again…”

    Merrys last blog post..Today, Josie has mostly…

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