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August 23, 2009

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Girls, originally uploaded by Mrs BN.

Best friends.

One of the things I was most pleased about when I found out I was having a second girl, was that I was so hopeful that with the two of them being so close together in age, that they would end up being close.

Not just sisters. But Best Friends and Sisters. With capital letters.

I wanted them so much to be the most important people in other’s lives. We’ve tried hard over the last couple of years to really reinforce with both of them that they need to look out for one another, confide in one another, be honest with each other and love one another. Not just as sisters, but as friends.

I don’t think I’m going to be disappointed.

As much as they spend time arguing and bickering over who had what first, who asked to have which coloured bowl for breakfast or who needs a wee the most as they run for the bathroom – they are firmly each other’s greatest audience and supporter.

If you’re telling one of them off? The other jumps to their defence. If one of them isn’t getting something they want, the other will come up with a good reason why we should change our minds.

Long may it continue. Girls, when you stumble up on this in the years to come – when you’re fighting over who took whose skirt to go out on Friday night and which one of you spent the other’s last tenner – look at this picture and know … that one day when one of you was 3 and the other was 4 – you laughed your heads off because Daddy was licking Mummy’s ear just so we could get a smile out of you for the camera at the same time…

Ah – family life.


5 Comments leave one →
  1. Merry permalink
    August 23, 2009 9:32 pm

    I do think it is a real boon; doesn’t always work of course but F and M who are similarly age gapped (nearly 21 months) do, as you know, just adore each other in the quietest, gentlest way that i could ever imagine. I was looking at the this evening, 11 and 9 and sitting on the same chair and watching something together (the same orthopaedic computer chair, that’s how small the space was!) and thinking they still exude the atmosphere of a long time married couple. They’ve been like it forever and it doesn’t seem to change. They don’t bicker and if they ever do exchange a cross word, it not only sounds extraordinary but they are both immediately heartbroken.

    There isn’t the same bond between any other set of the 4 of them, though in fairness they are all close, just not bicker free close. I’d love to take credit for it, but i think it has been luck. I love it. I love that they are unfailingly there for each other. i can well imagine F and M moving into some flat together in the future.

    I think some of it with F and M comes from F having a self proclaimed carer role for M’s more fragile nature – but that is no bad thing; if you can’t rely on your sister to leap to your defence and know you are hurt before you know yourself, who can you rely on.

    Good for you with your girls. I hope it continues.

  2. August 23, 2009 10:11 pm

    I love this picture – it sums them up so well – Ella laughing her head off uproariously and wholeheartedly – with such abandon – and Rowan looking at her with such love (I think) and loving how much she is laughing… they really *are* close. And better than that? They totally get each other.

    It’s lovely.

    I can imagine F and M living together as well – bless em 🙂

  3. Mancais permalink
    August 23, 2009 11:06 pm

    It’s great your girls are like this. Love the photo.
    I’ve got 2 brothers.

  4. Merry permalink
    August 23, 2009 11:25 pm

    Funny thing is, Ella is being you and Rowan is looking at her like BN looks at you. Which is not the way round in looks that your girls normally are. Hurrah for gene pools!

  5. September 3, 2009 12:43 pm

    This is part of why I was hoping for a two year age gap between children. I feel sad that my girls (if #2 is a girl) are unlikely to have such a close bond, mind you my sister is only 19 months younger than me and we don’t have a close bond at all!

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